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Welcome! I’m Ira Zezir, creator of Intimacy Architecture.
I rebuilt my life by reclaiming my spirituality and trust in pleasure through tantra and intuitive relating. I was raised Catholic and plagued by generational abuse trauma, drowning in anxiety and addiction cycles, until I realized that unifying my sexuality with my physical, mental, emotional and spiritual energy was vital to living a divine life.
Who’s it for?
People who want to…
Untangle Religious Trauma
Improve Boundaries
Enhance Intimacy in Relationships
Explore Kink and BDSM
Learn Tantra and Sex Magic
Receive LBGTQ+ Affirming Care
Design Your Relationships and Learn Tools of Polyamory
Process Pain of Past Lovers and Sexual Violations
Why Intimacy architecture? well, you have to first deconstruct the misconceptions about yourself, excavate the stuff that doesn’t work, then design and build a life you do love, that integrates all of you with passion.
harmonize your most important relationship, the one with yourself.
You can’t just think or talk your way out of intimacy problems. Your relationship patterns live in your senses, your gut, your fascia (the muscle memory), and your pelvic floor. change comes from a somatic experience.
Intimacy architecTure guides you through building a life you love with the pillars of whole-hearted living.
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Our bodies are our home. How we feel physically is a huge part of how we show up in the world. The body keeps score, so in order to heal the body must shift.
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The mind is a terrible thing to waste or to let run wild. Knowing how to navigate your thoughts is how you become a master of yourself.
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Emotions are feelings in motion. You can ride the wave and stay a float or you can be drowned out by the tidal. Your emotional intelligence is key to communication.
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We are more than mind and body. We are energy, formless and infinite. A relationship to your spiritual being is part of what make you experience whole hearted love and acceptance.
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We are all here as a result of sex. Our lives literal depend on sex. So why do we carry so much shame around who we are sexually? Your life is only as successful as your embrace of all of who you are and you sexuality is a vital piece in you being you.
As a Queer person who advocates for pleasure and the liberation of shame, I have never found it easy to live in the US, especially where I currently reside in Nashville, TN.
However, at this moment in time, I feel it is potentially unsafe and certainly uncomfortable to stay in the States. So after 10 years, I am packing up and mostly selling off everything in my 4 bedroom, 2 bath house with a shed to go nomad around Europe and see if it is possible to live somewhere else in the world that is sex-positive and LBGTQ+ friendly.
Is any place truly the land of the free?
I will be documenting the journey on my newest podcast, “A Way”.
I’m a pleasure advocate and have been a leader in the sex positive world since 2008.
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